The Main Event
You've selected and tailored your perfect Regas invitation set, complete with ink colors that correspond to the bridal bouquet. The next step is to submit the wording for your invitations and your Regas design proof will be on its way! Easy, right?
How you choose to word your invitation is a code for where your wedding ceremony will take place and who is hosting. The tone of the wording is a reflection of the kind of event you're inviting your guests to attend.
Today, there really are no right or wrong ways of writing invitation text. The main factor is how formal or informal your wedding is. Either way, the main elements will stay the same. Answer these questions to get a start at writing your text:
A few basic details to get us started
|Hosts:||Who is hosting your wedding?|
|Invitation:||Is the ceremony in a place of worship?|
|The Couple:||Who is getting married? (Ladies first!)|
|Date:||When is the ceremony taking place? (Date and time)|
|Venue:||Where is the ceremony taking place?|
|Location:||Which City, State?|
|Reception:||Is the reception taking place at the same location as the ceremony?|
Great! Now that you have your basic information down, we can put pen to paper. We realize that the modern family is made up of many combinations and it's not always as cut and dry as the Brides' married parents hosting the event! While composing your text, keep in mind a few guidelines that will help the tone of your invitation stay consistent.
A few basic details to get us started
|Most Formal:||This includes all titles and middle names example: Dr. and Mrs. Lloyd Chris Regas|
|Less Formal:||This includes all titles, but not middle names example: Dr. and Mrs. Lloyd Regas|
|Least Formal:||This does not include titles or middle names. example: Lloyd and Frieda Regas|
There are different ways of “inviting” people based on where your ceremony will be held.
- If your Ceremony is being held at a Place of Worship use “request the honor (or honour) of your presence”.
- If your ceremony is taking place at a Secular Location use “request the pleasure of your company”.
- If you are having an Informal Ceremony use “would be delighted by your presence at the marriage of their daughter”.
- If you are having an Informal Reception Only use “invite you to join them at the wedding reception of”.
When it comes to numerals (including date, time, and street numbers), it is always more traditional to write out the numbers (example: the twenty-fourth of December). For a non-traditional invitation, it is acceptable to use numerals (example: 251 Park Avenue). Including the year is optional but we like including it for keepsake value.
Never, ever, ever list any registry information on your invitation (anywhere. period.)! Instead consider including it on a shower invitation or a wedding website so that your guests can easily find it.
Okay, now you have your invitation squared away. But what about the other cards?
The RSVP. Way back when (and still in Europe today), an RSVP card wasn’t included in the invitation mailing. Guests of weddings knew to write back to the Bride’s family on his/her personal stationery. Today, however, the most traditional (and the Regas preferred) method of clearly finding out which of your guests are attending your wedding is to include a separate printed response card with your invitation. Guests will write their name and response on the card and mail it back to you (in a pre-stamped envelope with your address printed on the front). Of course, there are different options of wording for this card as well!
|Most Formal:||“The favor (or favour) of your response is requested.” Guests will write their name and whether or not they will be attending.|
|Less Formal:||“Kindly respond by the twenty-first of March”. An “M” with a line for the guest(s) name is printed on the card with an option to mark if they are “accepting” or “regretting” the invitation.|
|Least Formal:||“Kindly respond by March 21st.” A line with “Name(s)” written under it, prompting guests to fill out the card with their information. It’s okay to be a little cheeky with the wording on less formal RSVP cards. “Can’t wait to celebrate!” and “Will be there in spirit” are fun alternatives to “accepts” and “regrets”.|
The Reception Card. Traditionally, the reception information is included on a separate card. If the reception is being held at the same location as the ceremony, it’s acceptable to include a line for the reception at the bottom of the invitation card (reception immediately following the ceremony or Dinner and dancing to follow). However, if you would like to use very formal wording, the reception card is where you will inform guests of dress code, as traditionally, it is not appropriate to have it listed on the actual invitation.
The Rehearsal Dinner Card. We at Regas think that the rehearsal dinner is a special event of it’s own and deserves a place of importance in your invitation. With your mother-in-law’s blessing, we recommend including a separate printed invitation card for the rehearsal. You’ll find that your guests will appreciate knowing their weekend engagements at one time. The language on this card can follow the tone set already by your invitation or you can have a little fun with the wording if the event is less formal.
The Directions Card. This is a place to include a small map or clearly written out directions on how to get to your ceremony and/or reception venue. The Regas Bride might opt for this information to be included on a wedding website or in a welcome note at the hotel for each guest. Many of your guests may forget the card from your invitation that was mailed 6-8 weeks in advance.
The Accommodations Card. This card is especially useful if you are having a destination wedding or a wedding with out of town guests. If you have reserved a block of rooms at local hotels with special rates, you can list what hotels these are, along with contact information and websites so that your guests can easily make their travel arrangements.
Welcome Dinner or Farewell Brunch Card. Many of our clients host multiple events throughout their wedding weekend. Clam bakes, welcome BBQ’s, pre-wedding lawn games, and farewell brunches are all wonderful ways for friends and family of the couple to get to know one another. Details for these events should be printed on a separate card(s) and included in your invitation mailing. Don’t forget to include date, time, location, and attire information. If the host is different than the host of your wedding be sure your wording clearly identifies who is hosting.
Website Card. Websites are a brilliant way to update your guests on wedding details, travel tips, and accommodations (after all, you may not have every detail arranged when it’s time to go to print!). We at Regas prefer that the wedding website be printed on its own separate, smaller card. That way, all of the yucky “http:/www.com” won’t take away from your beautiful wedding invitation keepsake.
“At Home” Card. Growing up in the south we're very familiar with this tradition! It is a small card that lists what the Bride and Groom’s new address will be, after the wedding. This information may also be printed in the ceremony program.
The Save the Date. An opportunity to have some fun and show off your personality as a couple! Feel free to be as traditional or as clever with the wording as you would like. A Regas bride isn’t worried about being too matchy-matchy with the invitation as long as a thread of the design story is carried throughout. Browse through the Regas collection for wording inspiration.
Outer Envelope. One last, very important part of your wedding invitation is the return address on your envelope. Traditionally, the address on the back of your envelope is the address of the host(s), with no first or last names necessary. Today, with many weddings having multiple hosts it often comes down to who volunteers for the very important job of keeping track of the replies and the Excel spread sheet! When choosing whose address will be used, also keep in mind that this address is code for where registry gifts will be sent.